Why should We fit in a Specific Box?

Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
and I just can’t fit,
in a specific box.

Quite often we make plans and set goals, which we work towards achieving, no matter what. Maybe it’s just me, but I have reached a stage in life where I question almost everything. Many times, people have taken it the wrong way, when I question the conventional way of doing things.

It could be what cost me my internship, as I just needed to understand why there were different categories of the types of leadership. When I question something, I don’t intend to rebel; I just want to be in a position where I can support my stand whatever question comes my way. It’s probably the reason why I loved Physics in my high school days.

In Physics, the concepts make sense. In fitting an axle to a wheel, both made of metal; the shaft is placed in cold temperatures to contract, then installed into the hoop. They are then exposed to room temperature, and the axil expands to fit. You can’t argue with that explanation.

The norms and conventions of the society are prone to change, but people reject change before they get to embrace it. In the few or many years I have lived, depends on how you look at it, I have grown to believe in specific issues. That they were the absolute and proper way to live one’s life.

Say, get a good education, and you secure your future. Or, engage other people, don’t be an introvert. And I have tried to be what I am not and failed miserably so many times. It is until I decided to be who I am, that I am finding satisfaction in what I do.

  • Education

I once believed that the path you take in your education would determine what your career prospects will be and the field that will be suitable for you. And so, like many others, I opted for the courses with a high potential for good pay to a fresh graduate, and the future. In other education systems, you have the option to try out different fields before you settle for one. Even when you already select one, you can still change it.

Not many people realize that they can still have a fresh start and pursue what is in their hearts. Don’t let your educational background limit you. Find a way to get to the field you want. I just read a feature by the Daily Nation on a high school dropout who’s winging it in Sales and Marketing, and working with big brands too. But a fresh start is what many of us fear, but circumstance may force you to consider other options.

  • Career

The first job that you get may not be the last. People change careers when they can’t find satisfaction in what they do. Yes, even when you are 30 or 40 years old, you can make a career change. I never thought I would be writing, and especially not blogs.

But circumstances forced me. In the first few years, I was still reluctant and couldn’t tell others what I do. I thought that if people knew my background, they would see me as a failure. But now, I enjoy what I do. Yet, it all started as a part-time gig. Freelance writing gives me a sneak peek of different fields, as I write on a variety of niche for various clients.

It is an opportunity to learn, I can discuss with a dentist on dental implants and cosmetic procedures, I can even comfortably converse around the different skin rejuvenation processes, and why Hollywood celebrities look younger than their years. These are things I would probably not have known or heard about, but now I understand, even if it’s just a teeny-weeny bit of it. Just for the sake of small talk with experts in the field, as it arouses my curiosity.

  • Life

Being the introvert, and often a solitudinarian, I just couldn’t see myself writing about my life, and publishing it online. Well, I can spend a lot of time reflecting on life, questioning the status quo, or just planning my next move. When I have nothing to do, my mind always has something to ponder about, and sometimes I just wake up in the middle of the night, just reflecting.

A job post I applied to, required the candidates to have a blog, so I did the needful, purchased and registered a domain, and set up my web page. Then came the part where I had to learn about how to make use of a blog. A common reiterated sentiment among many experts in blogging is to find your niche and stick to it. It could be fashion, travel, lifestyle, etc.

Day and night, I struggled to find one that fit the bill. That is, in search of one particular subject matter that piques my interest, but my mind had and still has other plans. I come up with intriguing ideas,  on a variety of topics. I just don’t know how to restrict myself to one subject matter.

No matter, how hard I try, I just can’t. And I have to live with the fact that I will have opinions on different issues. My itching fingers will type them out, and without realizing it, I will publish the various articles.

But that’s just me. And in the end, it may or may not work out. One thing I know is, I just can’t fit in a single box. I will let my imagination wander the ends of the earth, and I will write about it until I can’t. And that’s just life. Sometimes we need to fail, to learn.

I will just hold on to these words:

“One who takes the road less traveled earns the rewards most missed.”
― Matshona Dhliwayo

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