3 Dun’ts of Relationships; Of Unrequited Love, Unavailable Guys and “Unconventional” Relationships

Unaware of her past, Xinger a slave manoeuvres her way, to work for Yuwen Yue, one of the high-ranking government officials of the Wei State. Wait! What’s this about, you may ask?

Living at a stage where one faces the daily pressures of adulting and trying to grapple with the sanity of getting it together; we all need some time to immerse our minds in activities that allow us to find shelter from the realities of life. Lately, Chinese series, seem to quench this thirst for an idyllic retreat, especially when I need to get out of my head.

Now, back to the Love Story that shapes this Chinese television series, Princess Agents. Xinger catches the eyes of different persons in authority, and most of them were Princes of different states. I won’t get into the politics of this captivating drama, though it has a significant impact on how everything turns out, in the end.

What interests me is the developing theme of love. Yuwen Yue is the guy next door who shows no emotions and is as cold as ice. He takes an interest in Xinger but to use her for his cause. Yan Xun and Yuan Song, both Princes and friends of Yuwen Yue take a liking to Xinger also, (or as they sometimes call her, A’Chu).

As the plot develops, Xinger warms towards Yan Xun, and the pair seems good together. They shared the same dream, of a world filled with peace. Resilient and strong-willed, A’Chu braves whatever comes her way but mostly with the help of Yan Xun and Yuwen Yue.

It appears like Yan Xun and A’Chu are getting close, as the plot thickens, but I was rooting for a more intimate relationship between her and Yuwen Yue. To my surprise and like an epiphany, so were many other people on the internet. It brought a realisation that many of us tend to gravitate towards the unavailable guys (ladies or gents). It could be the reason why we cannot seem to find an end to “Sponsor” relationships.


“He was seeing two different ladies at the same time. Lady A had a cheery demeanour and was by all standards a keeper. On the other hand, Lady B was the one he most wanted, but she wasn’t ready to settle down yet. It came a time when he desired to take one of the relationships to the next level. It would have been for his own good to settle with Lady A.

However, the heart wants what it wants. The guy chose to follow his heart which led him to Lady B. He now has to come to terms with accepting to share her with several other boyfriends of hers. Of course, he knew of this fact right from the start of their relationship.”


Yuan Song is an amiable character. Probably he falls among the “friend-zoned” category. Despite the harm he came to as he tried to stand up for his friends, Chu Qiao (Xinger) and Yan Xun, he still desires peace and tries to save A’ Chu. As with unrequited love, it wasn’t enough for Xinge’r to keep away from Yan Xun, due to the promise the two (Yan Xun & Chu Qiao) had made to each other.


“She felt strongly towards him and thought he did too. Perhaps, he made it appear like so. Though her friends told her his feelings towards her didn’t match what she wanted to offer him; she didn’t listen. Leaving their potential “love story” to chance, was not in her plans.

Tenaciously and passionately she pursued him, but he didn’t budge. Every move she made, would only result in him moving further away from her. The same way we let go of an idea after several failed attempts; she unwillingly decided to stop her advances.

Things were getting awkward and messy between them. With time her feelings ebbed away, she no longer had the urge to cry over his actions. Time passed, I guessed he realised he had lost something beautiful and could have reacted differently.

He reached out to her, after some time. However, she had moved on. He no longer held the same power over her, as he once did. She wasn’t interested anymore. ”


Yuwen Yue is also developing feelings for Xinger but it appears, he doesn’t want to show it. Their relationship is still of a master and his slave. When he finally let go of his detached self, it was a great joy. They were in opposing sides but always came to the rescue of the other, at the expense of the consequences of their actions. Sadly, their love story didn’t get time to bud, by the end of the 58th episode.

Though it has a tearjerker ending, here’s something to soothe your emotions; SPOILER ALERT!


 “They both liked each other. He belonged to a different religion from hers. Everything else about him was just what the lady (now a woman) ever wanted in a partner. Starting a relationship was not an option. She couldn’t help but worry about the day when they would need to have “the big talk” about religion. No one was ready to have a threesome with God and their partner.

Each party pulling one in a different direction. Both of them weren’t strong or brave enough to let go of their religious beliefs, in the name of love.

However, she still asks herself whether it would have worked out if they had chosen to listen to their feelings and consequences be damned. ”

2 thoughts on “3 Dun’ts of Relationships; Of Unrequited Love, Unavailable Guys and “Unconventional” Relationships”

  1. Love, Power, Loyalty! Oh wait, did I mention suspense? Just curious to find out what becomes of Yuwen Yue and A’chu, or Xinger, however you like it. Such a beautiful piece, well thought and splendidly written. Can’t wait for more of this!

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